A battle of wills is a literal phenomenon. It is not a battle of actions or even words, which are all secondary to the cause.
The Will is your instrument, and it is the deciding factor in all that you do. Therefore, in a “conflict of interest,” whether that be a negotiation in business or an argument with your spouse, two people’s Wills are at work.
When you are not invested in the conflict, it may be easy to let the other person get their way. You may not even realize it at the time. But this is because you have not utilized your will in the conflict. You have, instead, opted to be dominated.
Before we go on, it is not necessary to dominate everyone and everything with your will. But it IS necessary to prevent oneself from being dominated, a vital skill that few will ever achieve.
I am here to tell you how to either assert your will or defend against an attack from another.
Two forces: the Will and the Intent
There is a force behind the will known as the INTENT. This is what you want; it is your interests, images, and desires that you have set beforehand. These will drive you in the impending conflict.
Your Will is more like the hammer. You raise it or swing it in accordance with your divine vision, or goal.
Used this way, I will now explain how a conflict is won or lost.
The nature of conflict
When a conflict is initiated, the intent and will of someone else is literally attacking you. The force will invade your reality and make you conform to that person’s agenda. This may be acceptable for you, but in many cases it may not be.
Therefore you will have to learn how either to win, or defend yourself.
If you are the attacker, things are considerably easier, as you will soon learn. The defender, or target, often has no intent to enforce their own agenda when push comes to shove. This is because most people are inherently weak.
Another word for “intent” might be MOMENTUM.
When you are “on fire” and getting things done all day, your intent is set and this allows your Will to be accessed better. In other words–your will is STRONGER.
So when an attacker hits you, whether you are prepared or not prepared, you will be facing a battle of wills.
Visualization and affirmation are great tools to prepare in advance for a conflict. Especially if you know the conflict is coming, you can set your intent as how you will act and respond. This gives you power in the interaction.
For unexpected conflicts, you will be reliant on your agenda and intent that you are already operating on. But sometimes simply the awareness that you must assert your will can give you great power in the world and be prepared for any impending conflicts that day.
The actual battle
When the moment comes, often the eyes will lock.
Body language follows the will.
Therefore, if you are aloof and unresponsive, and able to go about your own business, then you are successfully brushing off an attack and defending yourself. This is called being “disengaged.”
But we are not always prepared to be disengaged from a conflict.
Often, the eyes will lock and the body language will be intense. This is an indicator of an extreme and acute battle of wills.
If you drop your intent to win, then you lose.
You will experience the loss in your own body language. You may feel a slight and sudden cloudiness behind the eyes. Your lip may quiver slightly.
In more extreme cases, you may look away.
But primarily what you will notice is a sense of defeat–even if your body language remains the same and logically you have not capitulated.
This surely means you have lost, and your opponent can sense that, because in reality humans are not just walking bags of meat but they are spirit and energy, and it is our WILLS that determine the outcome of a conflict, not the trappings.
Therefore, if you want to win a battle, you must set your INTENT. That means you must HOLD OUT and keep asserting your will for as long as it takes for the other person to break.
Often this may mean using the body to become more intense, or taking in more breath, and summoning your aggression. But as I have already stated, your body is a tool of the Will, and not the other way around.
The stronger your body and mind are, the better you will fare in any battle.
How to disengage or defend yourself
Let’s say you are in the midst of a battle of Wills. Not all opponents can be dominated.
You may have run across times where you seem to be at an impasse, and where the other person refuses to submit to you.
It is not always about “winning” or “losing.”
Sometimes you must disengage.
And sometimes the act of disengaging, or DEFENSE, can actually throw your opponent off and give you the upper hand to assert your will over them.
There are multiple methods for this.
The best method is the simplest one–but it is one learned through experience and energy. You simply disallow the person to dominate you, and put up an energetic shield.
But until you have mastered this technique, it can be helpful to use visuals in your mind.
Some people recommend using the image of a mental shield to “blockade” your enemy’s barrage. You can imagine a forcefield or coat of arms or a bright white light, for example.
But I personally prefer the powerful energy of frustration and hatred.
I will “push out” with my entire being, and force the energy of my opponents away from me in a rush of irritation. The “last straw.”
This may seem childish, but in fact it achieves the result of cutting off other people’s energetic tendrils and re-asserting my boundaries.
Ultimately, however, you will want to move to a place where you no longer need visuals or techniques to defend yourself, but rather you can actually sense and feel energy and wills on their own level, for which there is no description.
Those of you who have experienced this require no such explanation. But for those of you who haven’t, so further explanation is possible.
The energetic duel
When all is said and done, a battle of wills actually resembles a magic wand duel in Harry Potter.
When one opponent lets their intent slip, the other person’s will has a chance to dominate, and you will feel it when this happens.
Often it can be hard to re-assert your will after a fall, but this is entirely mental.
Believe it or not, letting your guard down does not make it harder to dominate the other person. This is a trick, because in reality you can come back full force and regain strength if you want to.
The idea here is to not let your fear or pity get the better of you, and tell you that you have “lost.” No conflict is truly lost until you have decided it, and submitted yourself to other person’s will.
Aim to win, but never lose
While it is possible to win the battle–and you will know it when it happens because you will feel it and read the other person’s body language–there is another method to ending a fight.
You can disengage, perhaps with one of the “defense” techniques above, and refuse to be dominated or dominate. This is actually extraordinarily useful, especially if you want no part in that person’s reality or if dominating them proves to be impossible.
You will know you have successfully disengaged when the tension is gone, you have not submitted, and you may even have an inner smile or genuine physical laughter at the ordeal.
Sometimes this is the ultimate way to win–by simply not playing. And often your opponent will be caught so off guard that they will have no idea what to do, or be completely helpless at your unwillingness (hah!) to engage.
Beware that your enemy may resort to extreme or desperate measures when you withdraw, as the shock and frustration gets to them. But normally this will be in your favor, and you can either re-negotiate or re-assert your will as needed.
The only winning move is not to play. – WarGames (film)
Keep in mind, however, that as long as you find yourself in combat it is often in your best interest to win, or at least try to win. Otherwise you will have to disengage with one of the defense tactics.
What you must never do is lose. This is submission and defeat, and you will feel it in your very being. You can recover from this, but a loss does not have to be an option.
All conflicts or even interactions with other human beings are defined by intent and the will. There is no such thing as “willpower,” you either have the strength to assert your will or you falter.
That is why you must not get lazy or complacent, lest you find yourself unable to summon the will. Aim to keep your mind and body in peak condition, but primarily always be AWARE and FOCUSED on the present and yourself, so that you will always be able to tap into your reservoir of energy and strength and be prepared for whatever happens.
Some call this meditation, and that is a useful practice.
Others, such as Victor Pride, advocate lifestyle practices to serve as meditation.
Your ultimate goal is simply to be present and aware at all times, so that you will always be ready to assert your will.
But I’ll let you in on a little secret:
You don’t have to assert your will over others.
You just have to assert your will over yourself.
Until next time,
P.S. If you want to read the Bible on the subject of will projection, check out The Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Theron Q. Dumont (William Walker Atkinson), the master of such techniques.
It will take you even further into the rabbit hole of energy and dominance. It changed my life, and it could change yours as well.