Using anxiety to control your woman

It’s not even a conscious thing. It’s not even quite instinct.

In the moment you are distinctly aware of the effect it will bring, but as you do it you must be doing it out of an inner desire of will.

As a careful observer of your own actions, which will happen after a fashion if you are an aware and manipulative person, then you will see both your innate tendency and the result it will effect.

Most (if not nearly all) of the women in my life have been easily manipulated by the “abandonment trigger.”

Long ago, I heard it said that alpha males “know when to walk away.”

It’s true. And even when you aren’t really ready to walk away, just forcing yourself to do it can often set your woman off.

The only thing you cannot do is expect this to always work. Not all women will love it and it won’t work every time, even if it works most of the time.

But don’t be afraid to employ it liberally, if you really want to. If a woman ain’t treating you how you want, just fucking walk.

Don’t matter if it’s right. Don’t matter if it’s wrong.

Don’t matter if you are acting or arrogant, or if you’re nice. If it’s what you want to do, then do it.

Walking away builds great character and it sets you up as the one in power. If women don’t chase, then fuck ’em. If they do, then make sure they are on their better behavior.

Unfortunately, with psycho women (like with borderline personality disorder) this trigger will make them fucking chase you down, grab onto you in the middle of the street crying your name, and call you 50 times in a row.

A more normal woman with boundaries will get indignant or be a little more coy in her approach to win you back.

Or maybe not.

It’s hard to kick women out of your apartment if they don’t want to go.

But I digress.

Walking away, ESPECIALLY when your woman is in disbelief or trying to call you out on your arrogance or ego or trying to trash you, will be the best thing you can do for yourself.

The benefits of making women crazy is only a secondary bonus.

You don’t use this as a tactic to make the woman acquiesce. Don’t EXPECT her to chase. Don’t dick around and “pretend” to leave UNLESS you are really good at this.

Unless she is a having a psychotic episode, she may see through your actions.

So at least some of the time, after you walk out on a woman, assuming you want to see her again, go home no matter what and don’t follow up with her for at least a couple days.

Just ignore her and make her obsess a bit before you come back. This is what really grinds the salt into the wound. This is what causes her major anxiety, and keeps her in line.

Now, NOTHING will ultimately keep a crazy chick in tow. You can make her submissive but even a batshit crazy girl will break free no matter how good you are at this.

Especially if the woman is a borderline, then half the time she will be glad you walked away. Even though you know she’ll call you again the next day.

But the bottom line is this:

You’ve gotta learn to walk away, and follow through no matter how you feel.

There WILL be times where you walk away from a date feeling shitty and wanting her back. But you gotta power through it anyway.

At worst, she was a bitch anyway.

At best, you will see her again sure enough so go home and do something more fun.

If you’ve forgotten how to walk away, then try it.

Next time any girl is being a bitch, call her out on it. Even if it’s something simple or trivial that bothers you.

 

And then if it won’t stop, you walk away.

See how good it feels.

Yeah, it’s manipulative as fuck. And that’s okay. Everything is manipulation. That’s life.

You don’t have to respect anybody or suck up to anyone. You can walk away on a dime if you want, and it’s that attitude that actually makes you more attractive anyway.

But like I said, at heart this is really about you. Not just about them.

If you can really walk away for YOU, then this will twice as effective.

This is not a technique or method, so much as this is a behavior that builds a certain attitude.

That attitude is this:

“Take it or leave it.”

In a world where women seem to demand impossibly high standards, you as the man are entitled to the same and more.

We men are just as powerful as women. If not more so.

You are a MAN, and she submits to YOU.

Any woman that doesn’t play along? You walk. It’s that simple.

Over time, this builds up your surety in your male power, and women will come crawling back.

Because they crave a powerful man, even if the only power he has is simply putting them in their place.

They will cry and scream and insult you, but at the end of the day if they want to play ball in your court, then they’d better follow YOUR rules.

It seems most men are busy following their women’s rules.

“I have to talk to my fiance first.”

“My wife handles the bills.”

“My girlfriend would never let me do that.”

I feel sick inside when I hear grown men say shit like that.

Let’s flip that around.

Next time a girl tells you what to do (her “rules”) then you turn it around and just give her one of your own.

She might lose her shit. And that’s when you tell her to shut up or suck your dick.

If she continues her bitching, you just walk away.

 

Go do whatever it is you used to think you needed her permission for. And then don’t apologize for it. It’s your life. She doesn’t control you.

Truth be told, if you just live as you please then you’re not controlling the women. They let themselves be controlled. It’s like they want to be under your spell.

Just remember the golden rule of pussy control:

“She can take it or leave it.”

 

Love,
James Mast

Stop giving women a free pass

I will never take care of a woman.

Paying for a woman’s bills and fully supporting her does not make me a “Man.”

It makes me more like her FATHER. And she became an adult a long time ago.

When you think about it, what is a girl who relies on a man for all of her needs?

She is a leech. A parasite.

I imagined myself as a girl living under such a scenario, and I imagined being very bored and very restless and utterly disgusted with my own laziness.

I then imagined myself as a very rich man with money to spare taking care of everything for a girl while she sits around and does…something. I was disgusted.

She didn’t have to work for that money, I did, and so nobody else gets access to it. Especially not just because they are women.

There is no real scientific evidence that men are providers and women are supposed to be taken care of. Humans are so distantly and wildly different than gorillas, which is where evolutionary psychology concepts originate. And gorillas themselves are wildly differentiated in social structure and behavior than even other monkeys.

So comparing humans to any other monkey species is wild speculation at best. We are too advanced, too complex.

When you as a man take care of a woman, you give her your energy and you take her energy. You lower yourself to your weakest link.

You can never be strong leeching off of the weak because you will only ever be as strong as the energy that they give you.

This works both ways–for both the parasite and the giver. It’s really just common sense. But think about it.

Spending money on women and buying them shit and driving them around and ordering them around and paying all their bills is treating them like children.

But they’re not children. They’re adults.

Women act like children because they are taught to, and because we let them. Not because they are actually children. Because they’re not.

I have no respect for a woman who demands to be treated like a child, like a “lady.”

And a lot of men (that media would label “mysoginists”) these days would say “That’s good, women don’t need to be respected.”

And you’re right, they don’t. So why waste your time on them again?

But wait! Isn’t it great to have a bunch of women as your slaves?

No. The truly strong person does not want or need slaves.

But why?

Because he is repulsed by them.

When I think about women acting like children, I am truly repulsed. I cannot stand people acting weak and rather than take advantage of them, i just want to grab them by the shoulders and shake them, or slap them, or drive them to achieve their potential and stop being weak.

But I can’t. The people all around me won’t stop being weak.

And so you’ll forgive me when I don’t take care of women or treat them the way they want to be coddled like little 5-year-olds.

I have MUCH higher standards for them, and most of them fail to meet these standards.

A lot of men would suggest that there are huge differences between women and men, but this is false.

I will now say what 99% of the manosphere-red-pill-esque people never say:

Men do all of the same stupid things women do.

Many men are stupid. They don’t get the truth. They complain, they want to be coddled. They look up to others and want to be taken care of.

It’s not as blatant as women’s programming because men are taught ot be stoic and emotionless and, of course, to get rich so that they can take care of their women (LOL!).

But all I see are a bunch of rat-race losers.

Real men do not set out to play the rat-race game of big house, kids, hot wife.

They seek a purpose in life and inspiration for THEMSELVES. This is strength. They do not coddle others.

And this goes for women.

Women need a purpose too. Women are men are much alike. They are the same species, after all.

I don’t buy into the bullshit anymore that men are the providers and women are the caretakers. And for all those of you “evo psych” people out there who love alpha males and beta males, of which I used to be fond of, the truth is that these models are based on species so radically different from humans they cannot be used as a valid comparison.

I have always been baffled by the use of mice in science before human trials and this is no different.

Wolves and monkeys are not so simplistic in social structure, and there are a BILLION other social structures out there to observe in the animal kingdom that defy the traditional patriarchy model.

Enough with all the crap. Stop allowing women free license to get free rides in society.

Men, you have a greater purpose than to enslave women and provide for them and make them dependent on you and lose their soul and become parasitic leeches.

And women, stop pretending to be victims and stupid.

Men don’t owe you money and I’d like a real strong woman to go out there and become her own breadwinner and inspire me to reach my potential. I would prefer an equal.

I’ve done the whole love slave thing, the whole “women are children” thing. It’s gotten old because I can’t stand being “psychologist” and teacher all the time to unwilling students. I hate people’s pathetic behavior and when I am exposed to weakness I either avoid it or try to nip it in the bud.

I never coddle women or give them an easy pass. If they are complaining, I tell them to shut up and stop whining like a little bitch. Because that is what I would say to a man.

If they are acting like children, I tell them so. If they are making excuses about their lack of progress or how their parents hold them back, I point out how they don’t actually need anyone else, including me, and that they can make their own decisions.

I’d rather see a bird fly away from my nest and be free than keep a woman around as a doting child with no real mind of her own.

I know, it’s very “un-red-pill” of me.

But I do not accept the social narrative and I don’t have to play by its rules. I simply don’t want to.

Those of you who enjoy the game of vapid trivialities, go do it.

But there are more important things, and rewarding things, and I know that I will never find my equal amongst women.

We do NOT NEED a soulmate outside of ourselves. We are all searching for one, even if secretly, but the truth is that you only need YOU to be whole.

I take women as they are…or, rather, as they choose to behave.

And I will hold you men to the same standard.

People in general act stupid and I would rather see the potential in them than take advantage of them.

I think men in general should all hold much higher standards for women, especially the ones they are serious with but also the ones they go casual with.

If we all stopped putting up with women’s behaviors and rewarding them for it, then they’d be forced to adapt.

Many “red pill” men claim not to “put women on a pedestal.”

Yes these same “red pill” men actually allow women their childish behaviors because it is IN THEIR NATURE and that “ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT.” So even the “enlightened” men of our new era are GIVING WOMEN A FREE PASS.

This is really a contradiction that reveals more about the victim mentality of the men themselves.

So here’s the solution:

Stop giving women free passes.

They are NOT children.

They are NOT stupid.

They are NOT ALL LIKE THAT.

They are NOT more deceitful and manipulative and weak and shallow by nature than men because ALL HUMANS ARE THESE THINGS BY NATURE.

And don’t get me started on “hypergamy.” MEN ARE HYPERGAMOUS TOO.

Men pick the hotter, tighter, wetter, funnier girl over the uglier, fatter, stupider, etc. girl.

Hypergamy exists in both sexes. Vigorously. And it is nothing new. Everyone does it.

And finally, both men and women are capable of love and falling in love. And love CAN surpass shallow differences.

But you cannot meet a woman as an equal when she just wants to be a leech.

Do yourself a favor.

Throw the garbage out.

 

– Pissing people off since 1969,
James Mast