Tempt yourself to build discipline

The best way to build tolerance to everything bad for you is to play with fire.

You purposely tempt yourself in order to build discipline.

When you pass the temptation, you feel a surge of purpose and purity. It is a Divine Fire, a cleansing that gives each day the opportunity to maintain that purity.

Avoiding the things that slow you down actually becomes a new addiction. You crave progress and discipline.

I had a sugar tooth growing up. My bowel movements were awful and my parents could never figure out why. Silly them, it was because I gorging on desserts every day.

While my “IBS” is gone (along with my OCD and bipolar disorder and diabetes and every other alleged “disorder” known to man that turns out to actually just be really bad habits), I still love the fuck out of sweets and I had a bad habit buying entire packs of donuts every day.

Being ripped, it doesn’t really affect me weightwise.

But it DOES affect my mood and energy levels. It slows me down and bogs down my mind.

Getting irritated by this temptation, I decided to buy another pack of donuts.

But this time I did something different.

I just let it sit there on my desk. I didn’t open it.

A few days later I picked it up, but knew I would feel immensely guilty, and so I set it back down.

Whenever I went out shopping in the store, I knew I couldn’t buy any other junk food because I already had those donuts at home, sitting there, untouched. I couldn’t bring myself to waste yet more money on junk food knowing that I already had some.

And that’s how I cured my donut addiction.

A long time ago I stopped eating desserts and junk food as my main diet. Now foods that used to be bland, such as natural peanut butter are full of flavor. Once all the artificial and addictive processed crap and all of the sugar was out of my system, my body re-adjusted to normal, healthy whole foods. Not to mention most of my digestion problems went away, and I had a lot more energy.

It’s not enough to just AVOID things that are bad for you. You must purposely TEMPT yourself and WIN.

This builds the addictive cycle of discipline and rising above your temptors. It’s quite self-righteous.

This stuff is all in the Bible, but of course as heathens we’re tempted to dismiss that book.

But the truth is that alcohol and sex and shitty foods and drugs really DO drain you of energy, and when you’re fighting an uphill battle you have nothing to spare.

“I don’t pray for God to take my problems away, I pray only for God to give me the strength to go through them.” – Jose Lozano

The #1 absolute guaranteed way to achieve anything at all:

Force yourself to do it regardless of how you feel.

That’s it.

Doesn’t matter how “prepared” you are. Doesn’t matter whether you have the proper “mindset.”

Doesn’t matter if you have your “thinking” together or if you “feel right.”

And the timing sure as hell doesn’t matter.

 

Just take action IMMEDIATELY ASAP, do it anyway no matter what.

No matter how you feel, it must be done. just pick a time, or better yet, do it RIGHT NOW, and then do it no matter what.

I guarantee you will make 1000x more progress than almost anybody on the planet with this method, even if you FAIL over and over and OVER again.

Failure is NECESSARY.

You MUST fail to win.

Go ahead and FUCK UP.

I DARE YOU.

I allow you to fuck things up, I give you permission to make a total fool of yourself and piss people off. It’s ok.

Everyone in the WORLD makes mistakes and you are no exception. You’re a fool for thinking that YOU matter so much that you can’t make mistakes, that everything must be perfect or “in order.” You don’t have to have it together.

You just have to TRY.

 

Here’s what that looks like:

Want to hit the gym?

Pick a time, and when that time comes go to the gym IMMEDIATELY, regardless of how you’re feeling.

See a pretty girl?

Talk to her RIGHT NOW, ASAP!

I don’t care if she’s on her cell phone or if your heart is beating wildly or if there is a police officer across the room. You do it anyway!

Want to stop sleeping so late/so much? Just want to get up on time?

Pick ONE TIME and then GET UP no matter fucking what. I don’t care if you only got an hour of sleep, I don’t care if you feel like a trainwreck, I don’t care if your girlfriend dumped you, I don’t care if you’re a broke piece of shit with no reason to live.

You get the FUCK UP anyway and go do something, even if you feel completely ineffective while doing it.

Want to stop browsing the internet or looking at your phone? Just wish you could stop these bad habits and stop feeling like doing them?

Then quit.

Cold turkey.

Just put down your goddamn phone, hide it if you have to, and don’t look at it anymore. I don’t care how much it bugs you. I don’t care if you crave that “stimulation.”

You just put it down and you don’t pick it back up, no matter how “bored” you are or how badly you want to see what the rest of the world is doing.

Trust me, they’re all doing the exact same thing:

Being fruitessly addicted.

You’re tired? Feel like shit? Depressed?

Get the FUCK UP and go do something, no matter how poorly you do it.

Worried that you’re not confident and that your mindset is shit?

Just keep going.

ACTION is the greatest way to change your mindset. No matter how confident you are, if you fail to take action, you won’t get any reward.

If you’re super hyped up but don’t go hit on girls, you will never become good with women.

And if you go hit on a bunch of women but aren’t too confident or feel like a loser, eventually, after many approaches and having a lot of sex, you will HAVE to become confident.

At the very least, it will be a lot easier to change your thinking.

ACTION first. Thoughts and feelings SECOND.

The ONLY thing you need to do to “prepare” is to STOP and sit yourself down, in the morning or at night BEFORE it’s time to be productive, and visualize what you need to get done in advance.

If you need to get something done, then pick a time and JUST DO IT.

But when you’re done, you’re done. Drop it, forget about it. It’s time to take action. Don’t worry about the weather or your girlfriend or how you are feeling.

Sure as hell don’t worry about “IS THIS IS THE IDEAL TIME AND WAY TO BE MOST EFFICIENT??”

Just throw everything else to the wind and go about your day.

 

Reckless? Impulsive?

Over time, this SEEMINGLY impulsive attitude will actually RESULT in tremendous effectiveness. You’ll be a man of action:

Someone who acts without hesitation, someone who can get things done no matter what, even in the face of fear.

 

Force yourself to do it regardless of how you feel.

You’ll be glad you did later.

Why it fucking works – A 30 Days of Discipline Review

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30 days of Discipline isn’t popular because it’s groundbreaking.

 

It’s popular because it actually fucking works.

There’s a difference between the slough of self-improvement books out there and an actual, practical method to achieving something that gets you results.

Meditation books like “Power of Now” aren’t helpful at all. The only way you’ll ever experience what Tolle is talking about is if you just get up off your ass and meditate every day–in which case the book might as well be useless to you.

Why?

Most “self-improvement” books are the equivalent of trying to give advice on how to shoot basketball.

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Beyond basic form, a few pages at most, maybe a couple pics and a video or two, there is NOTHING more you can gain from information on shooting baskets.

To get really good at shooting baskets, you can’t think your way there. You have to actually shoot tens of thousands of baskets.

Victor pride has a lot of motivational articles on his site but they’re all useless without the action. So naturally, 30 days of Discipline is the practical handbook for action that follows along with his motivational speaking. It’s brilliant strategy.

But I respect the book because nearly all of the habits are effectual habits that I was ALREADY using myself, at least in some form, before I got the book.

Taking cold showers, getting up early, no porn or jacking off, writing things down.

30 days has 12 habits but some of them are unexpected. Such as 2 meals a day and answering every question with a direct answer or a Yes or No. No bullshit, no excuses.

It’s a very direct manner and I’ve found its not always the most charming method of communication. I know diplomatic language and indirectness and talking a lot can be considered snake oil, but the reality is that they work.

Telling someone “do this” versus letting them come up with it on their own can work.

It all depends on the situation. 30 Days isn’t necessarily designed for you to keep all those habits.

What it does is FORCE you to do things every day that will forge discipline.

Answering a question with a “Yes” or “No” will be hard at times. Especially when there will be real consequences. It forces you to know what you want and make up your own damn mind, or just make a decision.

It also forces you to work-out and wake up in a highly effective way.

After a month I can easily imagine most people will experience huge changes. Most guys jack off every day and use porn. A month is not enough to see huge results from quitting but it will give you a glimpse. Waking up early and taking a cold shower and exercising? For fat people or unhealthy people this will transform them!

The only thing wrong with the book is that it needs one more habit.

The book talks about “goals with women” but it never includes any habits for that. Victor claims that 30 days all by itself will solve most people’s goals, but it will NOT solve your goals with women. There are simply no direct habits included for that.

Waking up, being healthy, getting in shape, and feeling great will make you more attractive to women, but it won’t just “bring in” the women. To do that you must go after the women.

I would add the 13th habit: talk to every attractive girl you see. Or at least say “Hi.” Vic already says this is one of his articles but it should be a habit in this book since he mentions it. It requires a lot of discipline and just speaking to women can have positive consequences in your favor. Just speaking to ANYBODY can sometimes bring unexpected results.

There’s no need for this habit if the book hadn’t brought it up on its own several times. Victor might have a low opinion of “picking up girls” but it’s an essential skill for men.

Yes, I recommend 30 Days of Discipline.

I make commission off of recommending it to you but it actually works. I can think of many different books and objects I should never have wasted money on, but this one will transform some people.

After the 30 days you can do what you want, but the point of the book is that it’s a mini-boot camp, just like the military. It forces you to do these “extreme” (only for the unenlightened) things.

Since actions change the way you think, and get things done, Victor’s book is ultimately more helpful than most out there on the market.

Everybody thinks that thinking changes your actions, but if you constantly think one way and do another eventually the conflict will rip you apart and you will have to pick one or the other. That’s how depression is caused.

30 Days gets you off your ass, no thinking required.

That’s really the key to any sort of change: stop thinking, start doing. You can improve things once you have started and you are well on your way.

But you have to start somewhere. And 30 Days is a great way to get you started.

Discipline is a very specific ability

Discipline is a very specific ability.

There was a time when I really had the desire to wake up at the same time every morning. But come every morning, I didn’t want to get up.

It was cold, it was early, I needed more sleep, I didn’t see any point.

I was making my decisions based on how I FEEL.

The day I learned discipline was the day I went into the gym feeling drained of energy and I realized I had to do squats. I had to do them because it was time. I didn’t want to do them, and I knew I wouldn’t perform them well.

But I did them anyway.

On the last set, I pushed myself. It didn’t hurt, it just was exhausting. I pushed myself because I knew I needed to. I drained my legs on that last set and wondered why I had made such a big deal about it.

That’s discipline.

Discipline is the ability to force yourself to do what needs to be done no matter how pointless you think it is, no matter how you feel, and no matter the outcome.

Discipline is wanting to do one thing, but forcing ourselves to do the right thing anyway.

Disclipine is the ability to take action in spite of how you feel.

Eventually this gives you the ability to do things without feeling them. Emotions begin not to matter, and only the result matters. Some people might say, “Doesn’t that make you inhuman?”

Yes.

It makes you SUPERHUMAN.

Idiots in the world like to pretend that people without feelings are “sociopaths.” But removing your feelings is unhealthy and impossible. It is CONTROL of your emotions that you want: the ability to act in spite of them.

You are not a sociopath for doing what needs to be done. You are more than human.

Humans have been afflicted with this plague that says they cannot do something without feeling like doing it. That is wrong.

We do this because we have been conditioned to believe that we cannot achieve results without confidence. This is false.

We think we ought to feel motivated all of the time, but motivation is overrated.

It’s when our energy is lowest and we are at our worst that discipline is built or destroyed.

The truth is that we can accomplish a lot more than we think we can even if we don’t feel good about it. We set ourselves up for success when we take action regardless of our feelings.

You can pick up and fuck hot women without being a social god. You can make money without being born with a silver spoon up your ass. You can become famous without being superhot.

You can do squats in the gym without doing them perfectly and you can get up on time even while feeling like shit.

The point is that you get the RESULT.

When I wake up now, I launch myself out of bed on time, no matter what. Sometimes it takes me 5 minutes to get to the bathroom. Sometimes I stand there and watch the cold water and hesitate before I get in. Sometimes I hesitate before getting out of bed because I wonder what’s the point. Sometimes I let the damn alarm ring a few times.

But, I force myself do them. I get up. I take a shower. I don’t go back to bed.

I start my work and I do it haphazardly. I do it regardless of how tired I am. I say hi to people even if I am offputting and nobody responds well.

I force myself to take pretty girls’ numbers even if they don’t seem interested at all.

You can’t wait for the “perfect opportunity”–it will never arrive. Even when it does you won’t be prepared to take it. You prepare yourself for the perfect opportunity by creating it in the now and doing that every damn day.

Don’t put something off now because then you will always be putting it off. Just do it immediately, no matter what it is, until that becomes your dutiful habit.

Do what needs to be done, and your emotions will adapt to you instead of the other way around.

That is discipline.

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