I don’t trust any doctors or psychologists.
Like politicians, they talk talk talk. But what have they done to prove that they are even worth listening to?
While some soft-spoken lunatic provides “therapy” for a client, I’m out here giving tough love to those with serious problems because that’s all that’s needed.
Know what? I’ve been through bipolar disorder.
I’ve beaten obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I’ve even been through borderline personality disorder, along with severe depression, anxiety, paranoia. I’ve had severe mood swings, regularly blown up at people, had manic episodes, been bedridden for days on end, had an unhealthy fear of cops and stayed awake for nights on end unable to sleep because of “entities” in my room, and I’ve been unable to walk into entire rooms because they were “filthy” and my hands had bleeding psoriasis because I kept washing them too much every day.
So next time anybody tells me that I should pity someone, or that I’m being too hard on someone, or that someone needs to be babied and taken care of, then I know that they are an idiot.
Sadly, I’ve also been through my unhealthy but entirely necessary share of “co-dependent” relationships. I know what it’s like to have that MADDENING drive to fix people. To train them. To show them their weaknesses and direct them.
If those people in my life were to talk about me, they would say that they “love me” and how great and wonderful I am, but they probably wouldn’t say the one thing I most would want to hear: that they got better because of me.
“Healthy” relationships are an illusion. You can become strong and healthy while still maintaining leeches. And it’s also mandatory that you learn from these experiences until you can have the strength to go it alone or seek out an equal.
Finding an equal is nearly impossible. You’re better off recognizing one simple thing:
Most people are inherently weak and that will never change.
Once you realize that nobody is listening, that nobody cares about your opinions or struggles, and that most people will never change, it then frees you by abdicating yourself of the responsibility to help or change them.
That’s why I don’t give money to homeless people–they’ve already made the decision to give up in life.
That’s why I don’t buy food or clothes or apartments for women–they’re not little children that need to be fed. They just act like it.
And when anybody–man or woman, parent or girlfriend–calls or texts to complain or inform me of any problem, I do not sypathize or pity or act shocked. Instead, I give advice. I tell them exactly what it is that I know they should do, from my own experience. And do they ever listen? No. They just want to complain.
So 90% of the time I just don’t even respond to complaining or excuses. It falls on deaf ears because I will not enable that behavior, and furthermore I will not let it drag ME down as well.
I’ve seen a lot of talk about “manspeak” and how men always try to solve a woman’s problems, and how they just want a sympathetic ear. Well I don’t really give a fuck.
When you come to me with a problem, you’d better be prepared for some real, practical, actionable advice on how to solve it, because that’s what strong people do. Not just men. It’s what people who are responsible, disciplined, mature, and self-convicted do.
It’s not that I don’t listen or can’t ever empathize. But most people just want to complain or be heard. And as soon as you do that, whatever comes out of your mouth affects your mindset and those around you. When you spill emotional vomit, all it often does is contaminate and pollute.
Better to keep that vomit inside of you, as motivation, and channel it toward a solution or some other constructive thing.
But when you listen to a weak person once, it will only tell them to keep doing it again and again.
A weak person will always self-sabotage whatever you do for them, or they will find someone else to help them.
You are not obligated to anyone.
If you see someone bleeding on the street, sure, call 911 and make sure they’ll live.
But don’t be taking care of people all the time. There’s plenty of people to go around who will do that.
The BEST people to teach are the ones who’ve gone through it all, and came out on top. But unfortunately, most of those people either don’t have the time or patience to teach, or they won’t coddle you like an ignoramus physician will.
My advice for bi-polar disorder? Just be persistent in controlling your moods and being productive. Eventually no one will know when you’re manic.
My advice for obsessive-compulsive disorder? Stop being a baby and let the instrusive thoughts bother you. Touch dirty and germy things and FEEL the devastating uncleanliness and toxicity. Keep torturing yourself until it goes away.
My advice for depression? Stop sleeping and get the fuck out of bed, no matter how shitty you feel.
My advice for anxiety? Do extremely anxiety-inducing things, like getting stopped by police, talking to members of the opposite sex, or take the right non-invasive drugs and then do those things.
My advice for paranoia? Face it. Get through the very things you’re paranoid about. Get in trouble, talk to a bunch of people and be really social. Get yourself kicked out of college parties, arrested, make peace with those nightmarish entities, and fix your mindset.
And that’s the last piece of advice I have for any problem: change your mindset and the way you think.
It’s the way you speak to yourself. When a weak person talks, just tell them to listen to their own bullshit:
“They’re hurting me!”
“I’m a victim!”
“I can’t do this without you!”
“I’m too old to do this!”
“What if the bad thing happens again?”
That’s their problem right there. They do not have an incurable deficit, and they don’t really need help.
They just need to stop being a baby and stop being afraid.
You can teach people until you’re blue in the face, but ultimately their problems usually just stay the same or get even worse.
“What happened to the advice I gave you?” you will ask. “Did you take it?”
“No,” they will say. “I started but stopped, or I just never took it in the first place,” they will inevitably tell you.
I’m not suggesting everybody always needs to listen to my advice. But most of the time people just never solve their problems, or they do it the hard way and luck out.
Right now I could give my parents 100% actionable advice, a perfect blueprint plan for getting into shape. But they won’t listen.
Here’s a story:
My dad just suffered a huge colon obstruction and told me nearly died.
When he told me about it out of the blue, I gave him advice on how to clear the blockage, since I’ve been through similar severe bowel problems before. They call it IBS, but it’s really just the manifestation of an awful diet and poor physical health.
My dad said this happens periodically “for some reason.” This guy also experiences mindblowingly painful kidney stones every 4 years. At the time I was led to believe it was genetic, but now I know better because my dad gets sick a lot.
Though I was tempted to give my dad advice, I didn’t give him a blueprint. He won’t listen. I just told him really quick “some reason = diet” and that was the last text I sent him.
This guy drinks coca-cola every day, is overweight and doesn’t do ANY exercise, doesn’t have sex with his fat wife, and binge-watches TV in his off-time.
It’s no wonder he nearly died of a colon obstruction. The way I look at it, the colon obstruction is just a physical manifestation of his shitty life.
My mom hasn’t lost any weight in years even though I’ve coached her for exercise, given her blueprints on how to lose weight, and checked up on her for accountability. An accountability partner does a weak person absolutely no good if they don’t actually care about being accountable.
In fact, I’m inclined to say that accountability as a concept is 100% worthless because all it does is make you co-dependent. If that person disppears, who’s going to hold you accountable?
That’s why you must learn to be accountable to yourself.
These nerds and psychologists love to talk about stupid and useless solutions, or prescribe life-threatening drugs, but if they really wanted to help people they’d tell them the truth:
Stop being a pussy and face your fears.
Actually fucking DO SOMETHING about the problem.
But hey, I’m no psychologist. My opinion isn’t medical advice. You should just keep listening to advice from your doctor, who wants you to spend more money on those FDA-pushed pharmaceuticals and rip you off. And by all means, don’t take any potentially life-altering drug without consulting him first, so that he can tell you not do it. In fact, don’t do anything useful first without talking to a nerd who went through medical school and never had real problems in his life.
That’s my medical disclaimer.
And in case you don’t believe me, or think I’m being too harsh, just check my About Me page for a pictorial history of how I went from weak to strong.
I rarely get sick or have serious health problems, my mood swings are easily controllable now (although sometimes I let them happen just for fun), I’ve gotten rid of 95% of my acne, I have a ton of energy, and I’m ripped.
I don’t blame the economy, I don’t blame being a “millenial,” I don’t blame my genes, I don’t blame my ugliness, and I don’t blame my parents. It took a while to get there, but I know now that NONE of things are holding me back, and that they are all bullshit excuses that I once used.
If a psycho-analyst REALLY wanted to help someone, you know what they would say?
“Grow the fuck up and start taking responsibility for your problems, you whiny spoiled brat.”
If you really want to fix something, you can.
But if you’re just looking to get taken care of, then there are plenty of chumps out there willing to do that as well.
Just remember that when you leech off of others, you lose yourself in the process. You become weak, and you become a slave.
Man or woman, it’s up to you to fix your problems.
It’s time to grow the fuck up.