The numbers game

The reality that successful people know is that everything in life is a numbers game.

This is a hard lesson to understand but it is also a great divider between the top performers and the strugglers.

Extremism is the only pragmatic approach. Think about it.

Think right now about how many attempts is too many. Is there a limit? And is that limit a physical limit, or is it just made up in your own mind?

You’ll likely find that this limit is entirely fabricated. You made it up. It isn’t real and it’s just based on what someone else said.

The only reason you hold back is because of conditioning–guilt, conscience, superego, shame, etc.

Throughout my life I’ve had the misfortune of running across a lot of negative people. Negative people are really just people with limits.

One time I expressed at work that I felt zero pity for homeless people because they do nothing to improve their situation, and I would never be like them.

Then a Christian zealot and a black woman turned on me and said I needed to feel pity for them because God might put me down and I would be like them one day.

I said, point blank, “That will never happen to me.” And I left.

She couldn’t look me in the eye after that and she never showed up to work again.

Of course back when I had limiting beliefs, such as the belief that I was always doing something wrong, then they would manifest.

In particular I once had a belief that hitting on girls was a bad thing. So I would only reinforce this with what I projected.

Once I approached a 30-year-old blond woman who yelled at me.

“Stop approaching people!” she snapped. “Do you want me to report you?”

At the time I felt such extreme shame. It was my worst fear manifested; the fear of getting into “trouble.”

I was bedridden for weeks. I slowly lost the ability to talk to ANY girls. This woman had broken through to my greatest insecurity. I had a couple more incidents after that involving police, but of course since I hadn’t broken any laws nothing happened.

But now that my belief is gone, people never “threaten” me this way.

What I had to learn the hard way is that everything is a numbers game, and there is no limit. The more numbers you play, the more options you have.

This is what successful people know that the negative nellies don’t. Because everyone and their dog that isn’t successful is a negative nellie.

They have limits.

These people are limited, and so when you approach them for whatever reason, they cannot comprehend a reality other than the path laid out for them.

The girl that rejects you and throws a fit has no idea what the reality of the numbers game is. She literally cannot comprehend that even though she is not interested, millions of other women are.

She is an idiot with no concept of how the real world works.
What’s funny is that many girls are still polite or even outright flirty with me, and tell me “there are plenty of other girls out there to talk to.”

And the ones who are rude are not representative. In fact, they probably have worse problems than the average person.

They clearly don’t understand success, or else they would be successful.

What that woman told me to “stop approaching people,” she was actually telling me: give up because you’re not good enough.

There are a few lucky bastards who grew up in privilege or with some kind of talent or looks. But that doesn’t guarantee wild success. It might just grant them passive success, which you can beat if you play the numbers (gain experience).

To get to level of those born lucky or with great talent, you will have to fight an uphill battle and go to extremes to get the same or greater level of experience.

Face the numbers. Get told that you are going to fail.

Or, worse, that you are not good enough for success.

But if you persist, you too can have success. And when you’re taking a hot girl you just met home then that one stupid bitch who wrecked you long ago can shove it up her legalistic asshole.

Just because one girl doesn’t want you is no guarantee that the next one doesn’t want your services.

The numbers game applies to all things in life, including friends and careers. There is plenty of opportunity out there for you.

Just remember that most people are stupid, narcissistic, entitled, and ignorant, and they will all assume that if THEY don’t want you, then nobody else would, either.

These people are all complete morons, and you know better.

Keep in mind that many people will also assume great things about you and wonder why anybody else can’t see your greatness.

At the end of the day, who gives a fuck.

Just hit those numbers and put yourself first.

Get over your fucking guilt complex

It’s time, young man, to take up your rightful place in the social order.

From now on you’re going to have people do you favors.

When you walk, make everyone get out of your way. It’s only fair. You’ve gotten out of their way a thousand times.

Instead of avoiding big men at the gym, bump shoulders with them. If women are holding hands and taking up the entire sidewalk, just keep walking right through them, right through their arms. Don’t look back, and don’t stop as they bitch at your audacity. After all, they had the audacity to think a Man of your stature would move out of their way.

Let people buy you dinner or pay for lunch. You’ve taken girls out on expensive dates because you felt they were more entitled than you, but it’s time now to be the entitled one and let them return the favor.

Instead of waiting for others to cross the street, you cross the street first.

And why should you do all these things?

Because your entire life you’ve eaten shit, that’s why.

You’ve done a billion fucking favors for other people, and isn’t it time they returned you the favor?

If God was watching, he’d smile on you because he has kept a tally of those “good” and nice acts you’ve done for others, and he knows it is time to reap your just reward.

You’ve done people favors your entire life, so why not flip the script now?

Think about it:

In every situation, there is always a winner and a loser. It is always a zero sum game.

Either you are doing the person a favor, or they are doing you a favor.

You can’t feel guilty for being the winner. Because the other person has the same problem.

Imagine you are crossing the road on foot, and a car is driving up at the same time. Both the car and you have to decide who goes first. So why not take the first step?

It may be selfish, but see, if you let the car go first, then that person in the car is being selfish instead.

Why the hell is anyone else’s desire more important than yours?

He had the same desire, but instead of putting his desire first, you put your own first. It’s just a little mindset shift. It’s very simple, and it’s almost easy.

You just have to practice being the asshole for a while instead of letting everyone around you and their dog shit all over you.

Both you and the other person have the same chance. And one of you has to be selfish.

Because here’s the thing:

If YOU don’t act in your own best interest, then SOMEONE ELSE will act in THEIRS.

No one is going to look after you. Nobody is going to hold your hand and make sure you get a “fair chance.”

The world is distinctly unfair, people are not equal, and you don’t owe fucking anyone a damn fucking thing.

You might as well be the winner.